Thursday, May 8, 2008

Taking some Mama time

Last week, I was feeling extra irritable. You know, having one of those days where I was yelling too much, about to burst into tears over the littlest thing. Lots of signs that I needed to get away for a bit. We all need to do it. It is good to bust out of your mama shell, suck it in, zip up those skinny jeans, and head for the door. I am very lucky to have a husband who tells me to go ahead and go before the dished are done, before bedtime. He will get it. He will get it all.


Really being a mother is the most massive thing I have done. It is really all I ever wanted to do. I cried on the front steps when I was eight because my parents told me I could not get married and start a family when I was 16.
The thing is though, I don't need a lot of time to myself, away from the kids. When I first had Addison I wondered what I was feeling. I never wanted to be away, never wanted to miss a moment. I thought this was guilt. It's not. I want to be here. I know all too well that they are not going to want a bedtime story forever. Friday and Saturday nights will not be family nights, and hugs in public will no longer be welcome.


Sometimes, when they are all playing, and everything is peaceful, I just want to take the moment and soak every bit up in my head, hang onto it for when these days have slipped by. When sandy foot prints and mud pies are replaced by "Mom, can I have the car tonight?"


People feel the need to tell me all time that I need to get out more, get away more. Hmmmm, we are all different. Some of us need lots of alone time, some of us don't. Some like to do a lot, some like to relax when ever they can. If you are a working parent, or if you stay at home, get out a lot, or just once in a while, we are really just trying to do our best, aren't we? Just trying to do what is right for us and our family.




So I am driving along, sipping on a yummy drink, you know, the kind that if you never bought, you could be a millionaire, and listening to something other than Mickey Mouse.


By the time I get home, I am thinking about how excited I am to squeeze my kids when I see them in the morning.

It is amazing what a new pair of jeans, and some time away, can do for a woman.






20 comments:

Julie said...

What a great post... and I love your new jeans and the shoes!

Suzanne said...

Thank you for this post -- it describes how I've been feeling all week, except I haven't yet taken the time... you know, that mommy guilt thing that I know should be banned.

Kelsi said...

Beautiful post! I am similar to you in that (as my mom tells the story) when I was 5 I cried and cried that I could not be a mommy when I turned 12. How I got the number 12 I have no idea!?!

I am getting ready to start graduate school and when I figured out that I will graduate in May, my first thought was maybe I will be pregnant. Well that is the goal anyway!

:)

Fairlightday said...

I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only mommy who adores being with her little ones all the time. People are always telling me to get out more, take some time for myself, but I end up going home early and going in to kiss sweet little heads and tuck them in just because I need to see them. Just call me obsessive. :) But, I hear your need to take a few hours away. I could use that this week too. I'm glad you enjoyed your time off and hurray for new great looking jeans.

Laura said...

Wow, you are a woman of my own heart. I feel the same way about my kids. I get offers all the time to babysit for us but we usually spend time together as a family and enjoy it. All vacations are family vacations. We get strange looks when we say we brought our kids with us to Cancun but it wouldn't have been as much fun without them.

Tristin said...

I'm not a mom, but I really liked your post... I wonder what motherhood will be like, and your tender words are encouraging.

Denise said...

I wholeheartedly agree! And I'm like you, lucky enough to have a hubby who lets me/encourages me to get out when I need to. Actually those days are long gone, it was when I was a new mom and during the toddler years. I only have one child and she's now 7 :) But I can still go out if and when I want to, I just usually don't want to!

Java Mama said...

Great post. Great jeans! Glad you enjoyed yourself.

Sam

amandajean said...

what a sweet post.

and dang, girl, you look good in those jeans!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, my name is Arizona said...

So true, so true. I also love being with my kids. As long as I can get away once a month to get my hair done and go to the fabric store I'm good! Great post and great photos! I love your jeans!

Marcia said...

Great pair of jeans. You're a wise woman to know and understand what you do about being a mom.

QuiltedSimple said...

You are such an awesome Mommy to your children - and hurrah for you to realize you need time for you too - love the jeans - great post!!!
Kris

angie said...

Very cute jeans and shoes.......I have those shoes, too. I have a hard time walking in them though because the heel slips off. Do yo have that problem too? I really liked what you said in your post! Happy Mothers day.

Poshyarns said...

What a lovely sincere, thoughtful post, I panic all the time about how fast it is all going, becoming a mother felt like I had finally found "my thing". But we all need a new pair of jeans once in a while, glad you enjoyed your me time.

house on hill road said...

i love this post, katie. it really rings true with me.

and look at you working those jeans!

Valou said...

I just love your writing. You really have a way with words. We're childless sadly but I love to get a taste of motherhood through your posts.
ps. I wish I looked half as good in my jeans as you do!

Kelly said...

fab post!

Shannon said...

Great post! I am very much the same as you. I have always wanted to be a mom, since birth really. I don't need or want to be away from home very much. When I need a break and I get it, I come back the happiest woman on earth because I am ready to do what I love. I don't think anyone can do a job 24 hours a day, 7 days a week without a break and be happy all the time. Good for you for taking care of your kiddos' mama!

Oh and the new jeans look FAB!

a friend to knit with said...

yep. you truly said it! i am a lot like that. and my husband can always sense when it should be "my time". i don't need it often, but goodness, when i need it...i REALLY need it!
i also feel the same way about the moments. i want to hold on to every one. and it really does go fast. i just can't believe how fast it has gone!
lovin your jeans. you really are rockin them.
happy mothers day, katie!

Sandy said...

This is a great post. Everyone is different, and has different needs.
But everyone needs a little break including a coffee and new jeans. ;)